I have spoken to dozens of couples with a dual career in five years to study how they work together, to develop two careers they were proud of and a fulfilling relationship. I found that the most successful couples discovered it consciously and together – and I summarized what I learned from these successful couples into a tool I call couple contracts. A couple contract is not designed to meet specific challenges. Instead, it aims to help couples agree on what is really important to them in the long run. This explicit agreement makes it easier for couples to cope with the many transitions they will face together in their professional lives. Now, if you develop a roadmap to deal with unexpected challenges, these challenges will be much less frightening if they occur. It tried to cover all the features, including those you had before covering the relationship and the properties acquired by both of you. Here are some of the biggest benefits you and your partner will probably have to experience after writing a relationship contract. It is the act of being fair and transparent in a relationship. There is no relationship that can survive without honesty and frankness. If it does not exist in both parts, what exists is only an illusion of a successful relationship. Nothing is more difficult than numbers. A strong financial understanding of the relationship relieves tensions and allows less time to worry about the dollar and more time focused on each other.
– We agree to love and appreciate all the emotional breakthroughs that come to us, and to honor every tear that needs to be treated in the safe space of our relationship If we enter into a short-term relationship or enter into a relationship, this document can serve as a model for the development of a relationship contract that gives consent to the terms of the relationship. They sit down and say, “Okay, what does it mean for us to be in a relationship? What is important for us to make sure we are involved? What can we enshrine in our contract to make you feel safe, loved, seen and cared for? What makes you happy and proud? What makes you happy? What makes a good life? These are all questions that can help you understand what is most important to you. Values are the criteria that allow us to measure our lives. If our decisions and actions are in line with our values, we feel satisfied. If they don`t, we feel stressed and unhappy. What`s most important to you is from concrete career goals to building financial security, from enough time for a major hobby to an adventurous family life. Whatever these values, when couples are aware of what matters most, they can more easily decide what to follow, and if they need to let go, it is more a willing sacrifice than an unfortunate compromise. For example, if you and your partner enjoy family time more than anything, none of you should accept a job that requires 70-hour weeks, even if it`s an amazing career opportunity. If you work in less demanding jobs, you can serve your values. Write down/type all the things each of you want to include, print it out and sign them. There you go.
You`ve just created your own bespoke relationship contract! There are issues that need to be considered before signing such an agreement, which include: Start with the letter: “This contract is concluded by and between (YOUR NAME) and (YOUR NAME PARTNER`). The duration of the agreement begins on the departure date and continues until the end date of the agreement. That`s where your relationship comes in… So many arguments and resentments that arise from relationships are only the result of one or both people in the relationship who feel that they are not meeting their needs.